Bore off basic Becky………

“I love bum sex”

Now I bet you’re thinking, really bird you’re going there, are you seriously going to write a blog post about your sexual preferences?! I bet you’re torn between not wanting to read on and complete and utter curiosity. Well read on my friend, go on I dare ya.

So no, this is not about sex, up the bum or however which way you prefer it. This post is about a remarkable young man who thought nothing about wearing a t-shirt with such a bold statement on it. No, I am not making it up, my nephew had a t-shirt saying “I love bum sex.” Who would wear such a thing and why?! Was he gay?

I’ll tell you who would wear such a thing, someone brave enough to not care what other people would say. Someone who instead of trying his hardest (even though it would make him unhappy) to fit in, relished in not conforming to ‘society standards’ (like wtf that does that even mean anyway. Bore off with ya ‘society standards’). Someone who thought it was perfectly normally to go to the top of the Eiffel tower and take a photo of the bin up there. He even asked some perplexed tourists, if they would mind moving so he could get the perfect picture of it. My nephew Mark was someone who made it totally acceptable to be different.

Being different must be so less tiring than being……..hmm being what? Normal? Imagine not feeling the need to look like (but not really) every other basic bitch out there. Imagine not being judged or indeed being the fucker judging by what possessions you or others own. Imagine not having to take a pic of your every breathing moment in an attempt to show people that your life is fulfilled and just so much more fun/interesting than their’s, even your friends. Imagine not competing with your friends for likes, views and all those other notifications that give us so much gratification (yes I do it to, if you looked at my Instagram it’s full of pics of my every day life. The most recent one shows you my Sunday, snack, wine and book #perfectsunday. This is me going, look at me I made my own Hummus #makeyourown ew why would anyone buy it from the store. Look at me, I read actual books #bookworm). 

There is a series of shows on Netflix called Black Mirror and one in particular called Nosedive . In this show everyone is rated out of 5 and depending how high/low you score depends on what services you get. Everything you do is rated out of 5 by everyone you come across.  This is literally what we do to ourselves on a daily basis. we critique our own and our friends lives through social media. How fucked up is that?!

In a world where everyone is so desperately conforming to be a basic Becky be a fabulously different Beryl #loveyouberyl.

Mark was only 18, we lost him 5 weeks ago tomorrow in a tragic accident and though it has been so hard for our family spending time with Mark’s friends and hearing all the stories about this wonderful human being has been heart lifting. There were lots of stories, some that made us blush, some that made us incredulous but every one of them made us laugh. They also showed us what an amazing, caring and fearless young man Mark was. Mark didn’t need possessions to make him feel whole and fulfilled, making people laugh was his gift and it was a gift he was very generous with.

RIP Little Mark xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Own Your Awesomeness

I was on the bus yesterday on my way to an interview (I’ve been doing this a lot lately, it’s amazing what happens when you actually apply for jobs) and this larger bird got on wearing, ripped fishnet stockings, a skirt that showed her arse and extensions that were, well obvs extensions. She was awesome.

She got on the bus and sat down next to a very well dressed lady who visibly cringed at this bird’s appearance. Now some people having this physical effect on a person might have moved or made themselves as small as possible, did this bird do that, no! This bird turned to the very well dressed lady and engaged her in conversation by saying “I like your bag.”  It was brilliant and such a fabulous way of saying “fuck you” she killed her with kindness.

So next time you feel like someone is being a judgy bitch, embrace it, don’t take it personal and say something nice about them (even if they are complete horrors and have no right judging you)  #killthemwithkindness.

In other news, I met some random birds last night (don’t get carried away, it was a networking/ make new friends event); this is also something I’ve been doing a lot lately and it so weird when you first walk into a place not knowing anyone like proper awkward. It’s like dating for friends, please be my friend, promise I’m not a complete lunatic (it’s way more fun letting them find out for themselves). So if you are a bird and new to Vancouver, look for a Facebook group called Girl Crew Vancouver. There really is no need to feel lonely here in Vancouver.